Redefining Success

“Success” looks and feels a whole lot different lately. I used to measure it in the amount of money coming in, sold-out launches, the number of followers on social media, and the shiny collab opportunities.

Now it feels a whole lot more simple and holistic. Yes, money is a motivator. But not for the sake of breaking through the next income ceiling to prove something. It’s for the sake of breaking generational patterns and providing for the life I want to be living with the people who matter most.

Yesterday night I tested out a new dinner recipe—white bean winter gnocchi. It was so fun to play in the kitchen and make a delish meal for my family. In my previous phase of life, there’s no way I would sacrifice a couple of hours of cooking when I could be doing “very important business things!” But wow. How soul-nourishing it is to get away from the screen and use your hands. To test the dish and savor the flavors. To hear your partner say, “Mmm, thank you for this, it’s so good.” And to see your baby banging her hands up and down in delight over what you made her.

Aisy hasn’t been feeling too great so the past two nights I’ve slept on the floor in her room, just so I could be nearby. Last night was particularly tough—she had a high fever and threw up after trying to give her some medicine and the poor little bug was just so uncomfortable. In my previous phase of life, I would complain about how unfair it was that I was having to sacrifice my sleep and my productivity the next day. And even though my heart ached and it felt so unfair that my baby was feeling crappy, I was so grateful to be able to spend most of the night holding her in my arms, doing whatever I could to make her comfier. To let her know that she is safe and that I am here. I knew I’d be absolutely exhausted the next day, but I was also able to breathe deeply knowing I would have support from our nanny if I needed to rest.

This morning I’ve been sleeeeepy but I knew I wouldn’t be able to go back to bed. So I spent 2.5 hours or so making glazed gingerbread donuts with Aisy (while our amazing nanny Jane helped look after her as I baked and cleaned), FaceTimed my sister with Aisy for half an hour, and now I’m sitting down to write. In my previous phase of life, I wouldn’t prioritize things like hobbies, talking on the phone, or writing for the joy of it. Now I realize that while these things are simple pleasures, they are also non-negotiables. They are my soul fuel.

So…this is what success looks and feels like now.

It’s not fancy. But it’s me. This is the life I love and choose.

To be able to take a few hours in the middle of the day to be with Aisy and do fun activities together.

Then to be able to hand her off to someone who loves her and takes the best care of her so I can do my soul work in the world and express myself creatively.

Or so I can have time to pour into myself by going for a walk in nature or to a workout class midday.

Or take a loooong nap, if needed.

I don’t do this alone and I’m so grateful for the support I have. I know it’s a luxury. And I am epically grateful for it.

This is what is wildly fulfilling and what success looks and feels like now.

I’d love to hear what success looks and feels like for you in this phase of life, so let me know in the comments! 🖤

Xx Lex

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